Lay It All Down
What expectations do you have of your spouse? 
Do you want him (her) to
- say kind things to you?
- help out more?
- do what he promised?
- understand you?
- take more responsiblity?
- apologize when he hurts you?
- talk about things without blowing up?
- lead spiritually?
- be faithful to you?
- care about what you’re going through?
- pay you some attention?
- help out with the kids more?
- work?
- (other) ________________?
In an upcoming post, we’ll look at more quick ways to heal up when trust has been broken, but try this first this week, and share in the comments what God shows you.
One of the main ways our hearts are wounded is when we expect something of someone who actually isn’t mature enough in that area of their life to do that quite yet. Those expectations are compounded all the more when they promise but don’t come through. It can feel like a betrayal. Like they lied. Try this on your wounded heart:
- Lay all your expectations, hopes, dreams, desires, frustrations, hurts, anger, opinions, judgments … everything… down now at Jesus’ feet.
- Then ask Him how HE sees that person.
- Run that through the Three-Fold Sieve* to make sure it’s God speaking.
- Does it agree with God’s Word?
- Does it agree with God’s character, especially His love and grace?
- Does it draw you (or others) closer to Him?
*The Three-Fold Sieve and other strategies for removing the barriers to oneness with Christ and others are found in DARE TO BE A MIGHTY WARRIOR (for him) and DELIGHT TO BE A WOMAN OF WONDER (for her) by Mikaela Vincent, MoreThanAConquerorBooks.com.
Dare to Be a Mighty Warrior 
Delight to Be a Woman of Wonder
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