Bethany Hatfield shares with us a beautiful story of how God healed and renovated her marriage and home:
Roughly 10 years ago Rudy and I had been divorced for a few months. He was on his way back from Manila with Lylah to bring her home to me (while he was living in the Philippines playing in the PBA) and during their flight I started to have symptoms of a heart attack. My left arm was numb, chest pain, chest tightness, shortness of breath, shoulder discomfort. I called my mom and told her I probably needed to go to the ER but honestly wasn’t convinced anything was actually wrong. After several tests the doctors realized my heart was fine but my left lung had collapsed. I had no prior health issues. It didn’t make sense. Actually I owned a health business at the time and was flying globally quite frequently to help others w health!
While sitting in that hospital bed I realized the only person I really wanted by my side was Rudy. He was coming home for two days before flying back to Manila and during his stay we were planning to put our house up for sale as we had been divorced for a few months by then. Out of kindness he stayed at the hospital with me to make sure I was okay and decided there was no way he wanted to sell the house while I was recovering. He didn’t want to add any additional stress to my situation. This whole scenario softened me and made me see things from a different perspective I wouldn’t have otherwise. It put me in the perfect position to gain more clarity.
It took a few months after that for us to get back together but my lung collapse was the foundation and situation necessary to keep our home, otherwise that weekend it would have been up for sale. I thank God frequently for that lung collapse.
I remember a year prior to all of that my step dad took Rudy and me out to dinner. This was after we had filed for divorce. Out of respect for him we both went. He said “Ya know, the grass is the greenest where you water it. You two will never find better than each other.”
Oh I’ll never forget that. This home. This home we almost sold and went our separate ways. This home, we didn’t take care of very well for a long time. We let things get overgrown, we let things build up just like our relationship but with hard work, commitment, and tearing down some walls it has become something so beautiful. We were thinking about moving this past year but decided to put an investment back into this house. We decided to water the grass right here where we are.
I can’t help but feel like this home so beautifully represents our relationship. When I step back and look at how far we’ve come, to say I’m proud is an understatement.
So remember, sometimes your grass may really look dead. Like brown, dead. Like, you want to light it on fire and just buy a new lot. But I promise with some water that ugly grass can bloom into a garden you didn’t even know was there.
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